We as society and especially in analyzing relationships love to throw around this concept of a person "not changing" which is usually said with disdain, or happily commenting on a person changing and now fitting into what we deem as respectable in their actions.
Ive mulled over this concept of "people changing" a lot over the years, either in respect to myself and my own growth, and in those i have relationships with (and failed :)) Here is my take on this concept:
People do NOT change. A person is inherently a certain way. They personality is mapped. What change sis one's self awareness. An awareness of who they are at the core. What they believe at the core. An awareness of events in their lives and how that has shaped them. Once this awareness arises, those who don't change their ACTIONS or HABITS are those that ignore who they are at the very core, or chose to believe that they cannot grow from this knowledge. Those we see as "changing" are those who have become aware, accepted who they are at the very core, and changed the way they REACT to certain situations. They are growing in their self awareness.
